There are some signs that someone is attracted to you. According to new psychology study, the researcher looked at over 50 different empirical studies that focused on non-verbal behaviors and attraction, also taking into account variations between different cultures around the world.
The research, published this week in the journal psychological bulletin, has conducted the “most comprehensive analysis ever” on the subtle cues we give off when we’re attracted to someone. The researchers looked at over 50 different empirical studies that focused on attraction and non-verbal behaviors, also taking into account variations between different cultures around the world.
They found that behaviors like laughter, smiling, eye contact, and initiating conversation were associated with attraction across most world cultures. In Western cultures, head nodding and mimicking behaviors were also noted as strong indicators of flirtation. There is a specific suite of behaviors associated with liking, and this same set of behaviors can be found in cultures from around the world.
Telltale signs also included behaviors that suggest the development of trust and rapport, such as close physical proximity and an interest in talking. When we like someone, we act in ways to get them to trust us. From this perspective, we engage in these behaviors to increase the degree of overlap, commitment, and interdependence to an agreement.
The researchers also explained some common myths about certain behaviors sometimes associated with flirting. They found no evidence linking attraction to using hand gestures, primping clothes, flicking hair, lifting eyebrows, open body posture, or leaning in.
Understanding these behaviors won’t just help out on a date, the researchers believe the findings can also be applied to relationships outside of romantic liaisons, whether it’s simply making friends or maintaining positive relationships with colleagues. Whether we engage in these behaviors has little or nothing to do with romantic desire. These behaviors apply when parents interact with their kids, when salespeople talk to their customers or doctors interact with their patients.